[fr] Excellente présentation de Brené Brown sur la vulnerabilité et l'importance de celle-ci pour notre capacité à entrer en relation. A regarder absolument (il y a des sous-titres français si vous en avez besoin).
First I watched Alain de Botton, who said very eloquently what I’ve been thinking for a few years now: if anyone can be anything, and we owe our successes to ourselves, we are also fully responsible for our failures, and that responsibility is crushing us and our self-esteem. I then went on to David Blaine, who held his breath for 17 minutes — more scary than inspiring for me (kids, don’t try this at home in the bathtub).
Finally, I listened to Brené Brown’s talk on vulnerability and connexion. It hit close to home, and I took some notes, which I’ll share with you in continuation with my mad crazy live-blogged notes of the Lift conference. But do listen to Brené directly:
In order for connection to happen, we need to let ourselves be seen.
Shame: if people see or know this thing about me, then I am not worthy of connexion.
The only thing that separates people who have a strong sense of worthiness from those who struggle to feel worthy of love and belonging is that those who have this strong sense of worthiness — they believe they are worthy of love and belonging. That’s the only difference.
The only thing that keeps us from connexion is our fear that we’re not worthy of connexion.
Courage to be imperfect.
Compassion to be kind to oneself and then to others.
Connexion as a result of authenticity. Let go of who you should be to be who you are.
AND vulnerability. They fully embraced it. They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. The willingness to say “I love you first”. The willingness to invest in a relationship which may or may not work out.
We numb vulnerability. But you can’t selectively numb the emotions you want, the difficult feelings. You numb everything else too.
We make everything that is uncertain certain. (Control.) We perfect. Including our children.
You’re imperfect, you’re wired for struggle, you’re worthy of love and belonging.
Let ourselves be seen. Love with our whole heart, even though there’s no guarantee. Practice gratitude and joy. Believe that we’re enough.
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