These are times of transformation for me. Getting medication for my ADHD (and also, simply understanding what was going on with my brain) has really opened doors for change, after many years of feeling stuck and hopeless with certain issues.
Of course, it’s not only the meds. As my (new, wonderful) therapist says, it’s also “doing the work”. I’m actively trying to figure things out, and as I always have been, doing my best to understand life and the world. Only now, I have a better set of keys. Discussions with those around me, as well as podcasts and things I read, in addition to observing myself and analysing how I function both at work and outside of work, are all ingredients in this time of change.
Some time back I wrote about a breakthrough moment: understanding that My Space Is There To Serve Me. This notion has really stuck with me and has been a paradigm change in how I view “housework”. It has given me an impulse to really be active in creating a living space for myself which “does good things” to me. A space that does not generate stress or anxiety because of the stuff I see in it or can’t find in it, a space that helps me relax and makes me feel happy.
This impulse was already in preparation, as part of the “post-meds effect”, and also following a breakthrough during my hypnotherapy training in summer 2023 – I still need to write about that, in fact.
Years ago, I remember Monique telling me that for a long time, she would actually take a week off in spring for spring-cleaning. Back then, I was baffled by the idea. There were so many other things I would rather do during a week of holidays! (And, reminder for my American readers: in Switzerland we get a minimum of 4 weeks a year, usually 5. I now have 6.)
As I was having an inner debate over what to do for my autumn holidays, I decided to spare myself the stress of travel plans and time away from home, and to use these two weeks to give myself time to care for my space – assist it in serving me well. So, starting October 7th, I have two weeks of “autumn cleaning” – and more.
Given my tendency to want to cram too much into every little nook and cranny of available time, and seeing that my mind was creating a very long list of all the things I would finally be able to do during these two weeks of holidays, I sat down a couple of weeks back to make a “housecare” (better than “housework”, isn’t it?) programme for myself. The result is that I have a day for each room, taking into account I have a bunch of appointments here and there and also need time to rest and do a few other things.
Now that I have clearly seen that it’ll be only a day per room (pro tip: calendars and plannings transform time into space, really useful when you have time blindness to any degree), I’m thinking about what I’ll prioritise in each room.
Deep cleaning, definitely.
Uncluttering, definitely.
The rest varies from room to room. For example, on my balcony I have an old set of shelves that are falling apart. They will go and be replaced by something else. My kitchen shelves are an awful formica brown, I have light-coloured sticky paper to cover them (bought it years ago), that’s going to happen. And maybe put some pretty vinyl on the floor. Etc.
The uncluttering and tidying part had had me thinking a lot about where I put things. One thing I’ve really understood (and that is ADHD-related) is that for me, out of sight really is out of mind. If something is in a cupboard or a drawer that I don’t open regularly, I forget it exists. I have closed spaces in my flat that I haven’t looked in for a year or more. What’s in there? I have no clue, and definitely don’t use what’s in there. So, I tend to leave things “out there” so I don’t forget about them. The result: a lot of clutter.
Over the years, I’ve come up with workarounds. Plastic transparent boxes in my bathroom to store things. Tinned food in my kitchen lives on shelves and not in the cupboard. Labels on my clothes drawers and shelves inside the cupboard. Easy access spaces for certain types of objects I use everyday. I also rely a lot of habits to keep things under control. I need to use labels more. I’m still looking for a nice set of food-shaped fridge magnets that I can use to make visible which perishables are at risk of perishing in the bottom drawers of my fridge.
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Over twenty years ago (heavens!) I wrote: Keeping The Flat Clean: Living Space As User Interface. See, even back then I was onto something. How do I store things and organise my space in a way that it is usable?
Does anybody remember The Mirror Project?
I’ve been staring at these two baskets in the middle of my living room for weeks now. They are filled with clutter. I never access them. They are in the middle of my living room. They could be put to good use. What could I store in them?
I friend of mine who moves around quite a bit told me one day she had plastic boxes for various needs or activities. She just grabs the box and throws it into the car. Box for the dog. Box for the week-end. It inspired me. I put together a Box For Respiratory Infections. (I had a lot of practice using and appreciating it this winter, as I went through six viral infections in a row.) What other boxes do I need? A hiking box? A sailing box?
The idea of duplicating key objects had started to make its way into my mind. I bought a second computer charger that lives inside my bag – I never again have to ask myself if I need to take my charger when going to work (or to the chalet, for that matter, or anywhere). I have a second set of “cat gear” that stays at the chalet. Having ready-to-go boxes might involve some duplication.
This is the kind of stuff that has been on my mind lately. And this morning, an idea took form clearly: there is the stuff I use and the stuff I don’t use. (Or don’t use very often, or don’t use nowadays.) And if I look at how things are stored in my flat, the underlying design is not “do I use it or not or how often”, but “what category of thing is this”. All my towels are in the same overflowing cupboard in my bathroom. But I don’t use them all. I rotate through a quarter of them. Only those need to be easily accessible. The space ones can go somewhere else (with a label, hopefully). Or simply go (but that’s another matter).
So, how about I really go all in with this “Living Space As User Interface” thing, and instead of making an inventory of stuff I have, start with what I use and do, and give real, useful, sensible homes to those things, instead of having them hang out in ad hoc spaces?
I have a big collection of plant pots on the top of my bookcase, easily accessible. I don’t pot plants every month. They are there because I didn’t have a place for them and there was space on top of the bookcase.
A lot of things are like that now: organic solutions that were not really thought out, and that became the default.
Boxes. Labels. Activity and frequency-based stuff management.
I’m now thinking about how to tackle this. Where do I start? How do I not get lost in the planning?
Here are some ideas:
- in each room, list the activities I do there, and start from that
- make an inventory of “storage spaces” and start from those: what would this or that space be good for storing?
- go through my calendar and list things I do over a week or month, and start from that
- list visible things in each room that I “never” touch
This is suddenly feeling a bit overwhelming. How would you tackle this?