[fr] Des liens. Surtout.
I still haven’t found the magic solution to grab interesting links on-the-fly and collect them for a future blog post. I easily share to facebook, G+ and Twitter from any device. Anything shared on Twitter ends up in delicious, and so does everything shared to facebook (albeit privately). I stuff things in Pocket when I don’t have time to read them and the tabs start piling up. I’ve started sticking things in Pocket that I have read but want to blog about. It’s going to be messy.
I hardly got through the first item in my notes with my last post. So, sorry for the somewhat stream-of-consciousness blogging. Welcome inside my head.
A facebook friend of mine asked us what we thought about couples who have shared email or facebook accounts. The reactions were mostly swift and strong: eeeeeeew! Mine was too.
Online, your account is your identity. Are you “one” with your significant other? Joint accounts, for me, point to symbiotic relationships, which I really don’t consider healthy. Are you nothing without your SO? Do you have no individuality or identity aside from “spouse of”?
This reminds me of how in certain communities the “second” of a couple (ie, not the primary member of the community) sometimes feels a bit like a satellite-person, using the “primary” as a proxy for interacting with the rest of the community. This bothers me.
It bothers me all the more that the “second” is (oh surprise) generally the woman of the couple. It’s a man’s world, isn’t it, and women just tag along. Enough said. A bit of reading. Not necessarily related. And in no particular order.
- Whose Side Are You On? — writing for kids while not having kids
- Screentime Is Making Kids Moody, Crazy and Lazy — more in another post, but I’ve been pondering a lot on the effect this much screentime and multitasking is having on my brain, and I think this article is onto something, also for big people
- After My Daughter’s Death, On Guilt and Apologies — tissue warning, and read all the other very moving posts Eric wrote around his daughter Rebecca’s illness and death. Modern Loss seems like a very interesting site/community I want to dig through more
- Indiana Man Will Spend the Rest of His Life on Sex-Offender Registry for Having Sex with a Teenager When He Was a Teenager — consensual sex, will I add. This is so horribly, horribly wrong. The whole “sex offender” thing is completely out of hand in crazy USA. Seriously. I really hope there is a resolution here.
- Gchat Venting Is Only Making You Madder — the article I don’t want to read, because it will force me to change the way I function. I vent a lot. Too much. I listened to a podcast sometime back which talked about this — how expressing anger online in the way we tend to actually makes things worse. One day I will read this.
- Be More Productive. Take Time Off. — I haven’t had a “real, long” holiday since 2013. Hopefully going to change. I’m not very good at taking time off, really off. Cf above and my mulling over my screen use. I used to be better at disconnection.
- The ‘choices’ facing women who want children — yes, I will write more about all this. As you can see, it’s not coming easily.
In “offline” news, I’ve been redoing some of the furniture in my living-room. (“Cheese sandwich”, here we come.) One part of trying to solve Tounsi’s indoor spraying problem is getting rid of the furniture he irremediably soiled, and that was the opportunity for some changes.
The picture is bad, but you see the idea. Huge cat tree on one side, and “cat ladder” created out of two LACK bookshelves from IKEA (don’t put all the shelves in). More for Tounsi than for Quintus, clearly, who is more comfy in the ground-level basket I brought back with him from England three years ago. His elbows aren’t what they used to be, so jumping down from anywhere is a bit of a pain.
Yes, today comes with a lot of bad cat photos. Sorry.
Anyway, I had to remove all my books from my bookcase to move it over one metre, which gave me the opportunity to start sorting, now that I’ve gone all digital with my kindle. I’m finding it very liberating. All those kilogrammes of books I’ve been carrying with me for 20 years! I can now feel free to let go of all but the most meaningful or precious. My Calibre library only takes up space on my hard drive — and hardly any.
(The WordPress editor is doing horrible things to the formatting in this post. My apologies.)
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- A Week After Ada Lovelace Day (ALD09) [en] (2009)
- Three Good Things [en] (2013)
- Books That Changed My Life [en] (2008)
- Of Grief and Travel [en] (2011)
- About my Writing [en] (2010)
- What We Write And Where We Write [en] (2013)
- Having Cats [en] (2012)
- Cats Online: Quintus and Tounsi [en] (2012)
- At Some Point I Started Caring About What I Wrote Here [en] (2017)